Practical Christianity:  Behind the Face of Addiction Part 4 — Learning to Live Unregulated

(Part 4 of 5)

Floatie:  Freedom Feels Like Instability at First

2 Corinthians 5:7  for we walk by faith, not by sight.(ESV)

When the regulators fall away, the soul often panics.  The early stages of freedom feel like losing balance—not because God is absent, but because the familiar stabilizers are gone.  Faith disrupts the old structures.  What is peaceful to the Spirit can feel dangerous to the flesh.  Freedom begins with disorientation.


✒️ Forge:  Why Trust Feels Unsafe Before It Feels True

Regulation trained your nervous system.  It taught your body what “safety” feels like, even if that safety was counterfeit.  Trust retrains it.  Regulation gives predictable emotional feedback:  do the thing, feel the relief.  Trust removes the immediate reinforcement.  There is a gap—sometimes long—between obedience and the return of peace.

But discomfort is not disobedience.  Silence is not abandonment.  Trust takes shape in the tension where nothing feels settled, yet you refuse to reach for old masters.


⚒️ Anvil:  Practicing Reliance Without Replacement

The goal is not technique.  It’s posture.  These practices introduce reliance, not new regulators.

1. Learning to Sit Without Substitutes

Let the regulators fall away without scrambling for new ones.  When unrest rises, don’t medicate it (if possible and safe)—expose it.  Let it surface in the presence of God rather than numbing it with habit.

2. Obedience Without Immediate Relief

Obey even when the peace hasn’t arrived yet.  Trust the process of alignment instead of demanding the sensation of comfort.  Peace that comes instantly is usually self-made.

3. Prayer That Is Not Functional

Prayer is not briefing God on your plan.  Sit with Him.  Listen without an agenda.  Trust the silence as much as the answers.

4. Rest That Does Not Earn Anything

Sabbath is not a reward for productivity—it is consent to God’s rule.  Stillness is an act of surrender, not a tactic for relief.

Guardrail:  These are not methods.  They are slow, deliberate postures that reshape the soul over time.


🔥 Ember:  The Fear of Being Unsupported

Living unregulated feels like standing without armor.  That fear is ancient.  In Eden, the first act after autonomy was covering—fig leaves before fellowship.  God removed the coverings before restoring the relationship.  Exposure is the doorway to healing.

Non-biblical insight:  What feels unsafe is often just unfamiliar.  The absence of your old coping mechanism is not the absence of God.


🌿 Covenant Triumph:  Peace as a Fruit, Not a Tool

Philippians 4:6–7  (6)do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  (7)And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.(ESV)

Peace is not something you force—it grows as obedience matures.  God governs what you release.  Stability becomes relational, not internal.  When surrender precedes peace, peace stops being a technique and becomes a witness.

You aren’t unprotected.  You are learning how protection actually works.


[⚓ Floatie] [✒️ Forge] [⚒️ Anvil] [🔥 Ember] [🌿 Covenant Triumph]
This post follows the Forge Baseline Rule—layered truth for the discerning remnant.

One response to “Practical Christianity:  Behind the Face of Addiction Part 4 — Learning to Live Unregulated”

  1. Annette B Avatar

    I relate to the panic in my stomach feeling . It always came with the fear of (?), losing trust in relationships. The rotten roots…Broken trust from unfaithful men . Being abandoned pregnant.
    Watching most everyone I knew get divorced or live with domestic violence.
    The older I became and the more I knew only pushed me further away from the desire to marry. On top of my fear of commitment. After menopause which only pushed me (my choice) away from all people..
    I found myself empty without the option to have children, (depressing)
    why get married?

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