Practical Christianity:  Durable Souls Part 3 — When the Church Outsourced Wholeness

(Part 3 of 17)

Floatie:  The Shepherd Who Sees the Scattered Flock

Ezekiel 34:1–4  (1)The word of the Lord came to me:  (2)“Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy, and say to them, even to the shepherds, Thus says the Lord God:  Ah, shepherds of Israel who have been feeding yourselves!  Should not shepherds feed the sheep?  (3)You eat the fat, you clothe yourselves with the wool, you slaughter the fat ones, but you do not feed the sheep.  (4)The weak you have not strengthened, the sick you have not healed, the injured you have not bound up, the strayed you have not brought back, the lost you have not sought, and with force and harshness you have ruled them.(ESV)

Some wounds come from living in a broken world.  Some wounds come from being a broken person.  But some wounds — and these cut the deepest — come from the places that were supposed to heal us.

This is where the Durable Souls subseries must dive openly, carefully, and truthfully.  This message speaks to mental health, not in clinical terms but in the spiritual harm caused when the Church surrenders its responsibility for human wholeness.  It does not attack the Bride of Christ.  It exposes the failure of institutions that stopped functioning like His Bride and started functioning like vendors in the house of God.  This is not a condemnation.  It is a diagnosis.
Because you cannot heal what you refuse to name.


✒️ Forge:  How the Church Lost the Work of Making People Whole

Scripture commands shepherds to strengthen the weak, heal the injured, seek the lost, and protect the flock.  Yet somewhere along the way, many churches traded that calling for something easier, cleaner, and more profitable:  outsourcing wholeness.

1. The early Church treated people — body, mind, and spirit — as a single, integrated being.

They:

  • fed bodies,
  • restored community,
  • reconciled relationships,
  • healed trauma through confession and belonging,
  • rebuilt identity through teaching,
  • supported the oppressed,
  • bore burdens collectively.

Nobody was told:  “Just pray more.”, “Just have faith.”, or “Just get over it.”  They were healed as whole human beings.

2. Modern churches relinquished this work because wholeness is costly.

Somewhere in the last century, the Church outsourced:

  • emotional wounds to therapists,
  • grief to support groups,
  • marital problems to counselors,
  • trauma to psychology,
  • the mind to secular systems,
  • the body to medicine,
  • truth to influencers,
  • maturity to programs,
  • accountability to HR structures.

The Church kept only the “spiritual part” of a person — the part easiest to preach about and hardest to verify.  But a soul cannot be healed if the mind remains fractured.  Faith cannot be strengthened if the emotions remain unaddressed.  Obedience cannot flourish if trauma remains untreated.  The Church did not lose authority.
It gave it away.

3. Outsourcing produces fragile believers and dependent institutions.

A believer who struggles with:

  • anxiety,
  • trauma,
  • panic,
  • shame,
  • emotional instability,
  • racing thoughts,
  • despair…

…is told:

  • “Read your Bible more.”
  • “Trust God more.”
  • “Stop overthinking.”
  • “Pray harder.”
  • “Come forward for prayer again.”
  • “Worship your way out of it.”

These aren’t solutions.  These are spiritual sedatives.  They soothe symptoms without healing wounds.

And institutions benefited from this — not maliciously every time, but consistently:

  • fragile believers need constant reassurance,
  • constant events,
  • constant teaching,
  • constant leadership,
  • constant crisis-driven spirituality.

This creates dependency, not maturity.

4. The Church didn’t stop caring — it stopped diagnosing.

Pastors were taught theology but not trauma.  They were trained to preach but not to discern emotional wounds.  They were taught doctrine but not human formation.  They became administrators of spiritual content instead of shepherds of vulnerable people.

So when someone broke, they were given:

  • verses without context,
  • encouragement without direction,
  • correction without connection,
  • prayer without insight.

Good intentions.  Wrong tools.  No surgeon wants to harm a patient.  But a surgeon without training harms people anyway.

5. When the Church neglects wholeness, Mammon gladly fills the vacuum.

If the Church will not:

  • teach emotional regulation,
  • help heal trauma,
  • restore identity,
  • develop discernment,
  • build durable believers…

…there are systems waiting that will — not to heal, but to harvest.

Mammon profits from fragile minds:

  • therapy cycles that never end,
  • medications for life,
  • consumer identities,
  • addiction-driven industries,
  • algorithmic anxiety,
  • fear-based news,
  • celebrity spirituality,
  • churches that rely on spiritual dependency rather than spiritual maturity.

A fragmented person is profitable everywhere.

Except to Christ.


⚒️ Anvil:  Where the Church’s Surrender Shows Up in Your Life

You may not have had the words for it, but you’ve felt the impact:

  • You grew up in church but never learned how to process anger.
  • You were taught to avoid fear, not understand it.
  • You were told to forgive instantly without healing the wound.
  • Your anxiety was treated like a moral failure.
  • Your trauma was reduced to a “spiritual attack.”
  • Your grief was rushed.
  • Your questions were treated like rebellion.
  • Your doubt was met with shame.
  • Your emotions were treated as untrustworthy.
  • Your identity was spoken of theologically but never healed practically.
  • Your mind was left to secular systems.
  • Your heart was left to cope alone.
  • Your body was left to medication.
  • Your soul was left confused.

This is the lived cost of the Church outsourcing wholeness.  Not because God abandoned you — but because people surrendered the work He gave them.  And here is the part that must be said with clarity:
Your fragility is not your fault.
You were underfed.  You were under-taught.  You were spiritually starved while being told you were full.

But you are not crazy.  You are not faithless.  You are not broken beyond repair.  You were failed.
And Christ saw it.


🔥 Ember:  My Witness to the Neglect

I’ve lived the consequences of this surrender.  I’ve seen believers taught to fear their own emotions.  I’ve seen men collapse because they were never taught how to carry burdens.  I’ve seen women suffer alone because nobody equipped them to understand the storms inside them.  I’ve seen trauma dismissed as weakness, anxiety dismissed as immaturity, depression dismissed as unbelief.  I’ve watched sincere Christians pass through churches that fed them excitement but not endurance — identity statements but not identity healing — sermons but not formation — worship experiences but not wisdom — encouragement but not equipping.  And I’ve wept over the cost:  people who loved God but felt constantly defective, people who believed Scripture but couldn’t stop spiraling, people who prayed but never received tools, people who tithed but never received teaching that touched the mind and heart together.

It’s not that the Church is the enemy.  It’s that the Church became tired, distracted, modernized, and fragmented — and fragile believers paid the price.


🌿 Covenant Triumph:  The True Shepherd Never Outsourced You

Ezekiel 34 ends not with condemnation but with a promise:  “I myself will search for my sheep and will seek them out.”(Ezekiel 34:11)  When human shepherds fail, Christ takes the work back into His own hands.

He never outsourced your wholeness.
He never handed your mind over to secular systems.
He never left your emotional wounds unaddressed.
He never ignored your trauma.
He never dismissed your fear.
He never fed Himself at your expense.

He seeks.
He binds up.
He rebuilds.
He restores.

Durable Souls is not a critique of the Church.  It is the recovery of what the Church was always meant to do.  And in the next message, we turn toward the heart of that recovery — why so many believers pray, study, worship, and still feel unchanged — and how misdiagnosed wounds lead to misfired prayers.

Christ is still the Shepherd.  And He is coming for the parts of you the world and the Church both neglected.


[⚓ Floatie] [✒️ Forge] [⚒️ Anvil] [🔥 Ember] [🌿 Covenant Triumph]
This post follows the Forge Baseline Rule—layered truth for the discerning remnant.

9 responses to “Practical Christianity:  Durable Souls Part 3 — When the Church Outsourced Wholeness”

  1. cleaners4seniors Avatar

    Wow did you nail it 🎯

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    1. Don Avatar
      Don

      I have so much more to say on this particular subject, but that would derail the purpose of this series. I rage against the modern definition of church. It’s a business in a lot of cases. They are doing the exact same thing that Jesus flipped tables over.

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    2. Don Avatar
      Don

      By the way, I know I said it was in the last century, but this has really been a thing from almost the very beginning of the church. There was always the real church. Then there was the “church” that twisted the gospel for personal gain. I’ve seen so many examples of this in history. We lost the message of love and it became all about obedience, fear, giving everything to the church, and control. People who are afraid are easy to manipulate. The point of this sub-series is to set the foundation for people who want to truly walk with Christ in a world that wants anything but.

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      1. cleaners4seniors Avatar

        I’ve been in love happy happy joy joy churches . Staying In current life for this … it’s just smile and look good /feel good and love everyone .
        Staying current … what Im seeing is
        Love being used to form the false unified church. Kumbyah my friends neighbors and enemies kumbyah. Cant we all just 🤐get along?
        The well manored, properly attired, trendy ones of all religions, the most popular who question nothing …. 😠 , cast blessings vibes and thoughts back & forth like ping pong balls. Peace harmony & Love.
        Thats it .
        I’ll be on my way 🙋‍♀️ Don’t ask where Im going . Probably to my prayer closet. ❤️

        (Not looking back)

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      2. Don Avatar
        Don

        Those churches are leading people astray. It’s that simple. There are churches that only focus on the fire and brimstone message. There are churches that only teach the happy, no pressure, love is the only thing that matters, blah, blah, blah type churches. There are the ones that say that the only reason why you’re struggling in life is because you haven’t given enough to the church. There are those churches that try to say that if you’re a true believer then all you have to do is pray in Jesus’ name and you’ll get it with an apology that it took so long to get it to you.

        My blood pressure is going up just thinking about these churches. Revelation paints a pretty bleak picture of the church in the last days. I think we are much closer to that image than most of us would like to believe.

        BUT……

        Jesus wasn’t caught off guard by any of this. He knew this would happen. He also knows that there are a lot of churches out there of all sizes and types that truly want to lead the lost to Him and that is the only reward they seek. I find that these churches tend to be smaller because they don’t have the draw that pulls in major “donors” who will give millions while only asking that their name be put on whatever addition is built with the money. The small pastors have a tendency of making people uncomfortable or angry because they still call sin by its name. This type of pastor will admit their own behavior and areas where they still struggle. They stay human despite their positions. They only want to serve our Lord and Savior. These are the pastors who stay behind and sweep the floors and clean the toilets because there is no part of service that is beneath them. Washing feet? What a step up. Oh, to be worthy of that honor.

        I see plenty of people in churches today who are better qualified to serve the kingdom than the lead pastors of the churches they attend. Rockstar preachers. I’m not saying that just being a megachurch pastor automatically disqualifies a person, but it’s the same conversation about the camel through the eye of the needle. Whether that was a literal reference or not, the metaphor still stands.

        People who want to hear the fire and brimstone messages but not the love message will join churches that cater to that message. Those people who only want the loving and non-convicting messages that lift their spirits and make them feel good about themselves will join churches that only teach such messages. The message has become a drug. Pastors have become the dealers. If the drug is right then the people will become addicted and willing to give anything to feel that high again.

        I understand addiction and starvation in ways that most people can’t. I’ve had plenty of addictions over the years and know that you can become addicted to just about anything or anyone. Whatever it takes for us to feel “normal” is the thing we are addicted to. Chasing the thing we think we are missing is often how we become addicted. Starvation—physical, mental, spiritual, or emotional—leaves a hunger that is often hard to define beyond a vague sensation of lacking. We don’t know what we lack because we have become so numbed to living in a state of lacking and we have stopped teaching each other how to identify the signals we get and what they mean. We stopped asking why. The quick answer has been chosen far too often.

        With that said, I see people starving for the things that a healthy relationship with God normally provides. There is a fulfillment, peace, and joy that comes through that relationship that can’t be found anywhere else. The enemy knows this and has offered us empty, shallow, or hollow imitations of the real thing for so long that we can’t tell the real thing when we see it. We crave love, but nobody knows what love is. We crave attention, but don’t understand what healthy attention (without being self-serving) looks like. We don’t know how to build relationships that last. We don’t know what it means to stand on the Rock of our Salvation anymore. Paul was joyous even when he went without food for days on end. He sang in prison. He smiled while being beaten. They could take everything, including his life, and it only brought him more joy. All because he was being filled from a fountain that never ran dry. He was being fed with the kind of nourishment that we only dream of today.

        Ok, gotta stop the rant. I’m getting wound up. This subject is a never ending source of frustration. I weep for the lost. I rejoice knowing that He is still in charge.

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      3. cleaners4seniors Avatar

        Sorry … Thats how I get.
        And why I said … not looking back.
        Church fell.
        Popularity is a lie 👹

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  2. cleaners4seniors Avatar

    Im pretty sure , His word always enlightens more truth that shines brightly…. exactly where His sheep need to go . 🐑

    Psalms 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. 🔦

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  3. RW - Disciple of Yahshua Avatar
    RW – Disciple of Yahshua

    Wow, I love that I can just stay silent and both of you just call it out again and again all the things that so frustrate me about the body. I understand the getting worked up part and that is why I must stay silent, so that I don’t sin in my anger. Still learning how to effectively communicate in a healthy way. Healthy for me and for anyone listening and/or reading. Thank you both!

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  4. cleaners4seniors Avatar

    Wow real dialogue is good!
    Conversation with humans is real!
    🙏

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