Practical Christianity:  The Unmade Self Part 7 — Identity That Can’t Die

(Part 7 of 7)

Floatie:  Identity That Cannot Die

Romans 8:38–39  (38)For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, (39)nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.(ESV)

Identity feels fragile when it depends on memory, unstable when it depends on emotion, temporary when it depends on roles., and inconsistent when it depends on past experience.

But identity sourced in Christ cannot die.

This is not poetic language.  This is the literal theological reality of the redeemed:  Nothing in creation has access to the part of you God authored.

Not trauma.  Not loss.  Not silence.  Not fear.  Not sin.  Not confusion.  Not memory loss.  Not the grave.

The final message of this series is the triumph of that truth.


✒️ Forge:  The Naming Power of God Over the Redeemed

Revelation 2:17  He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.  To the one who conquers I will give some of the hidden manna, and I will give him a white stone, with a new name written on the stone that no one knows except the one who receives it.’(ESV)

Isaiah 62:2  The nations shall see your righteousness, and all the kings your glory, and you shall be called by a new name that the mouth of the Lord will give.(ESV)

Identity is not something you choose.  It is something God names.

This is the power of divine naming:

  • It is not based on performance.
  • It is not revoked by failure.
  • It is not overwritten by trauma.
  • It is not dependent on memory.
  • It is not altered by emotion.
  • It is not shaken by silence.
  • It is not conditional on behavior.
  • It is not subject to the world’s interpretation.
  • It is not vulnerable to the enemy’s accusation.
  • It is not fragile under pressure.

Every false identity collapses under life’s brutality.  Only God’s identity for you stands unbroken.  Your true name is written by the One who cannot lie.  And He writes in stone.


⚒️ Anvil:  Every False Identity Must Die

John 10:10  The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.  I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.(ESV)

The anvil is the confrontation.

If your identity can be:

  • stolen,
  • shaken,
  • broken,
  • overwritten,
  • lost,
  • or silenced…

then it was never your identity.

False identities come from:

  • trauma,
  • roles,
  • emotional states,
  • cultural expectations,
  • performance,
  • sin,
  • fear,
  • family wounds,
  • childhood patterns,
  • self-hatred,
  • shame.

God’s reconstruction process required the death of every false identity layer so the true identity — the one He breathed — could rise.  Identity in Christ is not a polished version of your old self.  Identity in Christ is the resurrection of the self God always intended.  Identity cannot be rebuilt until false identity dies.


🔥 Ember:  What Survived, What Died, and What Rose

2 Corinthians 5:17  Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.  The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.(ESV)

Here is the truth that gives fire back to the soul:  When everything collapsed, when memory failed, when silence stretched on for years, the only parts of me that survived were the parts God authored.

My learned patterns died.  My roles evaporated.  My emotional scaffolding was stripped.  My functional identity dissolved.

But the breath of God in me —

  • loyalty,
  • hunger for truth,
  • integrity,
  • compassion,
  • perseverance,
  • courage,
  • discernment,
  • protectiveness,
  • curiosity,
  • spiritual sensitivity —

remained untouched.

This is the proof:  Identity in Christ is not fragile.  Identity in Christ is indestructible.

I lost access to my memories, but I did not lose access to who God made me.  Identity rebuilt by God is identity that cannot die.


🌿 Covenant Triumph:  Identity Held by a Covenant-Keeping God

Isaiah 61:1–4  (1)The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me, because the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor; he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound; (2)to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all who mourn; (3)to grant to those who mourn in Zion— to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit; that they may be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he may be glorified.  (4)They shall build up the ancient ruins; they shall raise up the former devastations; they shall repair the ruined cities, the devastations of many generations.(ESV)

God did not promise that identity would never break.  He promised that He would hold it when it does.

Here is the covenant triumph of this entire series:

  • When identity shattered, God did not.
  • When memory vanished, God remembered.
  • When roles disappeared, God remained.
  • When silence stretched, God stayed.
  • When the past dissolved, God preserved the essence.
  • When the self fragmented, God gathered the pieces.
  • When lies spoke loudly, God kept His truth steady.
  • When the enemy interpreted silence as abandonment, God interpreted it as reconstruction.
  • When I could not find myself, God found me.

Your identity is not stable because you hold onto God.  Your identity is stable because He holds onto you.

Stop.  Go back and read that part again.

Identity in Christ is not the restoration of the old self.  It is the unveiling of the real self God kept alive through every collapse.  This is your covenant:  Nothing in this life or the next can undo the identity God has written in His own hand.

The Practice of Obedience:  Receiving the Name God Has Given You

This is the most demanding obedience of the series — because it defines the rest of your life.

1. Physical Act:  Write Your False Names on a Stone and Smash It

Not paper.  Not digital.  A stone.  Write the names the world gave you — names born of trauma, sin, shame, failure, fear, or culture.

Then break the stone with a hammer.

Say aloud:  “These names are not mine.”

2. Relational Act:  Tell Someone the True Name God Is Giving You

You will know it.  It will come as conviction, not emotion.  Tell one trusted person:  “God has renamed me, and this is the name He spoke.”

Identity becomes real when witnessed.

3. Spiritual Act:  Ask God to Reveal the First Assignment of Your Restored Identity

Identity produces calling.  Calling requires alignment.  Pray:  “Lord, now that I know who I am, show me what this identity is for.”

This obedience is not symbolic.  It is formative.  Identity must be lived.


[⚓ Floatie] [✒️ Forge] [⚒️ Anvil] [🔥 Ember] [🌿 Covenant Triumph]
This post follows the Forge Baseline Rule—layered truth for the discerning remnant.

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