Walking With Christ

Hebrews 12:15 See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;(ESV)

Proverbs 15:18 A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.(ESV)

Hurt people hurt people because pain that is not transformed is transferred.

This is true for the pain we are not conscious of or have simply grown accustomed to. It’s entirely possible to carry the pain of ones past into the newness in Christ out of habit. Many of us have trauma we carry with us without really being aware of it. We’ve dealt with it for so long that it blends into the background noise of life. We might be transformed but we continue to think or act out of habit at times.

Romans 12:17-21 (17)Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. (18)If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. (19)Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (20)To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” (21)Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.(ESV)

2 Corinthians 10:5-6 (5)We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ, (6)being ready to punish every disobedience, when your obedience is complete.(ESV)

Proverbs 4:23 Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.(ESV)

Even though it is easier said than done, there is an action plan for the pain in our lives.

1. Acknowledge the Pain
   • Recognize unresolved hurt in your life. Bring it to God in prayer and allow Him to heal it.
2. Choose Forgiveness
   • Forgive those who have hurt you, even if they don’t seek forgiveness. This breaks the cycle of bitterness and harm.
3. Seek Transformation
   • Allow God to renew your mind and heart through His Word, prayer, and the Holy Spirit.
4. Respond with Compassion
   • When others hurt you, recognize that their pain may be driving their actions, and choose to respond with empathy and grace.

Sometimes we have to learn or relearn how to act or react in some situations. A new bit of previously unknown information can completely change a person’s perception of who they are and the world they live in. It can take time to process. It can take time to heal. Seek renewal and transformation through His Word and the Holy Spirit so that you can respond with compassion towards yourself and others.

It’s a life-long process and requires as much dedication as it does grace. Sometimes, the first step to healing is to forgive. Sometimes, the first step to healing is saying, “I’m sorry” even if you’re looking in the mirror.